Do We Really Want To Hear The Truth?
Going into the grocery store, I thought of a good friend who I haven’t spoken to in several weeks. I made a mental promise to myself to give her a call or drop over to her house.
As luck would have it, I ran into that particular friend in one of the aisles and I asked her how she was doing. She replied quickly she was doing fine and moved on to more interesting conversation.
Since we were both on tight schedules, we said goodbye after about ten minutes. But as I walked away I began to wonder. Visibly, my friend looked pretty good. But was she?
I know she has several health issues including a heart problem and cancer. Yet, she smiled pleasantly with me as if nothing could get her down. I thought: if only I could live my life like that.
When we ask someone how they are, do we really want to hear the truth?
Reasons for Denial
Maybe people don’t want to burden others with their problems, but isn’t that what friends are for? Was I being selfish for not asking further?
Maybe if a person denies anything is wrong, the problem won’t exist for them in that moment.
Maybe they feel they are so much more than the disease eating away at them that they chose not to talk about it, because it doesn’t define them.
For whatever reason my friend said she was fine, I’ll believe her. Whether it is ignorant bliss or a selfless act of making our lives happy, I’ll relish in the moment with her.